Welcome to the beginning of a project that will delve into the question of Human Behavior. What makes you do what you do? Why do you know what you know? How do you find the answers? Who decides if you’re right?
Most people think of themselves’ as decent human beings. However when we’re born, we enter into a world full of different cultures and beliefs. Decent for one person may be the complete opposite of another’s definition. So as children, just like sponges, we absorb the behaviors of the people around us. We grow usually learning from family, friends, and neighborhood experiences. School and religion also contribute to this learning process of who we become. Our financial status whether it be wealth or poverty crystallizes our place. So here we are.
As a child I attended Catholic School daily. In the afternoon I was babysat by a Jehovah’s Witness member. And on Sunday it was off to Baptist Church with grandma. I wondered, they are all “decent” people how can they all be right? That same grandma had diabetes in a time when the control with insulin was still not perfected. One morning at her home grandma became seriously ill. I was only nine years old. We realized she hadn’t properly taken her insulin. None of the family or friends knew how to administer the insulin so the ambulance was immediately called. And we waited.
In my little town, in those days when the ambulance or fire dept. was called, a siren went off that could be heard all over town. About thirty minutes had went by and no siren. The ambulance was called again and my family was told the ambulance was on the way. And we waited. Now about an hour had past and the word was getting around about my grandma’s condition. Someone came by grandma’s home and said there’s an ambulance sitting at the fire station. Needless to say my mom and a few others headed to the fire station. And sure enough there it was the brand new ambulance our town had recently bought.
I saw my mom beg and plead with the attendants on duty to come help my grandma. I remember these men looking at us and telling us if we didn’t leave and wait for the “colored” ambulance the police would be called. The nearest hospital was over an hour away. We left and went back to grandma’s not really knowing what to do. We did our best to comfort grandmama. That’s what I called her.
About another hour or so passed and finally we heard the siren. It’s believed by then grandmama had went into a coma. I remember right before the ambulance attendants came in I was standing beside the bed holding grandmama’s hand. Everybody was crying and I told grandmama that I loved her. She squeezed my hand. Twenty minutes later a call came telling us grandmama had passed enroute to the hospital.
There’s a need for people of different life experiences to work together to first acknowledge the differences exist. I’m sure the ambulance attendants considered themselves “decent”. The need consists of finally having more than just a discussion but to find solutions. The CARD’s purpose is to get beyond disscussion and reach solutions. The participation of everyone is needed. That’s how we learn!
The CARD’s goal is to implement solutions to the part of our human nature and environmental behaviors that brings out the best in us.